Great Sexpectations

Plot

Marriage counselors Robert and Rosemary Barnes believe the most important sex organ is the mind. While there are plenty of well-written Christian books on sex technique, the Barnes focus on attitudes and expectations that affect sex lives and marriages in their new book, "Great Sexpectations." "It's a book written to help married couples take the leap from just 'having sex' to the ecstasy of 'making love'," say the authors. "Expectations come from many places, and they can be an enemy to a marriage if they are not looked at, understood, and controlled, " say the Barnes. They begin by explaining where expectations come from. They explore how family relationships and society influence how spouses believe their partners should behave sexually. Many times spouses don't know what is expected of them., or their expectations are based on bad relationships or society myths. Seven chapters are devoted to myths that cause errors in expectations and problems in a couple's sex life, such as: "What you see is what you get; " "My spouse responds the same way I do; " and "Couples are born compatible." "Great Sexpectations" also deals with complications to lovemaking: building a relationship around children, dealing with affairs, sexual and non-sexual, and how to respond to a spouse who is uninterested. Throughout this section The Barnes' stress communication, understanding, forgiveness, and patience as the keys to building and rebuilding the sexual relationship.